When you cry is an important time in your life.
But if you’re feeling depressed, or you’re suffering from anxiety, it can be difficult to know what’s best for you.
The Canadian Psychological Association (CPA) says that if you cry and think it’s OK, you’re likely to feel better.
“It’s very important that you feel okay about crying and then, in the same breath, you tell your partner,” says CPA President Dr. Anne Marie Joly.
“Because you are in a situation where you’re vulnerable, you need to have the trust that you’re okay and you can cry.
That’s the most important thing.”
Here are some ways to get better at knowing when to cry and when to hold it off: When you feel a need to cry, don’t cry.
“If you’re depressed or anxious, it’s easy to feel like you can’t cry, so it’s not a good time,” says Joly, who is also a professor at the University of Toronto.
When you’re sad, it helps to be aware of your own emotions and the way you’re responding.
“You don’t have to hold back and cry, but if you do, you’ll feel like it’s taking away your ability to cry,” she says.
“There’s a lot of research out there that suggests that crying is actually good for your brain.”
When you can hold it on, don, too.
“A lot of people cry a lot and feel like they’re crying all the time, and it makes it difficult to do anything,” Joly says.
In fact, crying is a natural reaction to sadness and fear, which are the symptoms of PTSD.
“For crying to be beneficial, you have to be able to control it, and if you can, you should hold off,” Jole says.
You can also hold it down when you feel that you might be getting overwhelmed.
“Crying can also help to relieve some of the stress,” Joles says.
The only thing you should do is hold it for as long as you can and then let it go.
“Once you’ve held it, it should be OK to take a break,” Jollys says.
Be careful when it comes to sharing your feelings.
You should never cry on the phone, at work, or at your doctor.
“We need to be really careful with that because it’s a very emotional time,” she adds.
Instead, you can share your feelings in writing.
“When you feel like your life is going to change and you’re going to be better, it may be a good idea to write down a few thoughts about your feelings,” she advises.
“That way, you don’t think of it as a total loss.”
“If we have an emotional crisis, we often say that it’s our responsibility to get through it,” Jolls says.
Sometimes, you may find it easier to talk with a therapist.
“Sometimes the therapist can be a helpful person to talk about it,” she suggests.
When it comes time to get help, remember that you can always reach out to someone.
“In the end, it really comes down to personal choice,” she concludes.
“People don’t want to hear it, but it can happen, so people need to talk to their doctors about it.”